Is Monogamy Bad for Men?

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Is monogamy bad for men?

Are only a few men wired to be true to one woman?

…taken from a post published on

Is monogamy bad for men? Really?! Do most married  men – even the ones who spoke their marriage vows with the utmost sincerity –  feel the urge to stray? Continue reading

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The Myth about Marriage

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Is there a myth about marriage?

by Garry Wills at the NYR Blog

Is there a myth about marriage?

Why do some people who would recognize gay civil unions oppose gay marriage? Certain religious groups want to deny gays the sacredness of what they take to be a sacrament. But marriage is no sacrament.

Marriage a fact of life, not religious dogma

Some of my fellow Catholics even think that “true marriage” was instituted by Christ. It wasn’t. Marriage is prescribed in Eden by YHWH (Yahweh) at Genesis 2.24: man and wife shall “become one flesh.” When Jesus is asked about marriage, he simply quotes that passage from Genesis (Mark 10.8). He nowhere claims to be laying a new foundation for a “Christian marriage” to replace the Yahwist institution.

Some try to make the wedding at Cana (John 1.1-11) somehow sacramental because Jesus worked his first miracle there. But that was clearly a Jewish wedding, like any other Jesus might have attended, and the miracle, by its superabundance of wine, is meant to show the disciples that the Messianic time has come. The great Johannine scholar Father Raymond Brown emphasizes this, and concludes of the passage: “Neither the external nor the internal evidence for a symbolic reference to matrimony is strong. The wedding is only the backdrop and occasion for the story, and the joining of the man and woman does not have any direct role in the narrative.”

Marriage as Christian sacrament not always the case

The early church had no specific rite for marriage. This was left up to the secular authorities of the Roman Empire, since marriage is a legal concern for the legitimacy of heirs. When the Empire became Christian under Constantine, Christian emperors continued the imperial control of marriage, as the Code of Justinian makes clear. When the Empire faltered in the West, church courts took up the role of legal adjudicator of valid marriages.

But there was still no special religious meaning to the institution. As the best scholar of sacramental history, Joseph Martos, puts it: “Before the eleventh century there was no such thing as a Christian wedding ceremony in the Latin church, and throughout the Middle Ages there was no single church ritual for solemnizing marriage between Christians.


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Virginia Highest in US for Black-White Marriage

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Virginia ranks highest in U.S. for black-white marriage

By Denise M. Watson
The Virginian-Pilot
© March 17, 2012
Virginia ranks highest in U.S. for black-white marriage. When Andrew Bernard started chatting with Alissa Landry at the Bayside rec center where she worked, he didn’t notice her darker skin. He noticed that she was fun to talk to.

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Do you want to avoid a divorce?

By Nomalanga Mhlauli-Moses

Divorce is messy. It can cost people their happiness, their health, their relationship with their children, their money and often their homes, cars and much else.
Here are some ways in which, Ms. Mhauli-Moses tells us, a marriage – that most delicate and fragile thing – can be saved:

“Anyone who has been married for at least five years and still has a healthy and functional marriage, if they are being honest, will tell you that they have had at least one rough patch, probably more. Best selling author, Laura Doyle, wrote a very controversial book years ago, based on her experience with her own marriage that had reached the “divorce-point”. By following six simple principles, outlined in the book, “The Surrendered Wife,” she was able to not only avoid a divorce, but she was also able to experience marriage in a much more joyful and peaceful way.

Please be warned; if you have some sort of aversion to “submission” (as a lot of modern women do), these principles may rub you the wrong way but, having read the book that these principles are based on, I can assure you that while there may be some seemingly similar points, it is not the same…”

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