Interracial Marriage


Interracial Marriage

 Interracial Marriage

Is interracial marriage the only way to overcome racism?
Some would say it is definitely not; that the deeper causes of racism are not addressed with interracial unions; that only a willingness on the part of an oppressive majority to ruthlessly examine their racist history and follow through on same with a sweeping social transformation will eliminate racism. Their work, however, would not be over at that point. In order to make any such changes work on a long-term basis, they would then have to permanently monitor society for signs of racism and if/when detected root it out by whatever means necessary – given the toxicity that is racism.

 Longevity of racism

Others believe that racism can be abolished by love; the kind of love that leads to marriage and children. There are objections to this belief. A common one is based on the longevity of White racism at both the personal and institutional level.  According to this school of thought, the growing number of Black-White unions – even those which result in marriage and offspring – cannot undo the critical mass of injustice that comes with four centuries of grossly unequal treatment and murder.

Racism like poison gas

Without addressing the blunt facts of history – a task that is that much more daunting precisely because history is manifold and wears many disguises – we will get nowhere in the attempt to end racism in America. One way to do this is through turning finally and unequivocally towards truth, as far as the White majority goes. Those of a certain age in this group need to see that they were raised in a thoroughly racist environment, and that agreeing to recognition of this fact is a necessary and sufficient first step – for some White Americans – towards eliminating the racism that prevailed in the America of their childhood. To use a physical analogy, if one has inhaled poison gas the first step is to get it out of his system and the second (step) is to make sure it doesn’t get back in – a process, which like that of conquering racism, takes effort and may be accompanied by much pain.

Interracial marriage

Another way of combating racism –  interracial unions – may also be said to have something to do with history, if they prove to be the only way whereby  America’s racist past leads to a non- (or multi-) racist future…
…to be continued

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Deborah Plummer on Interracial Marriage

Deborah Plummer


Deborah Plummer on Interracial Marriage in America

Dr.Deborah Plummer is an author, psychologist, diversity thought leader and Grub Street board member. She is also the Editor of Handbook of Diversity Management(University Press of America), award-winning author of Racing Across the Lines: Changing Race Relations through Friendships (Pilgrim Press). In addition, she created the Sister Nun cozy mysteries: They Still Call Me Sister and The Family That Stays Together. Deborah is a regularly featured blogger for the Huffington Post and commentator for numerous media outlets. She is proud board member of Boston”s GrubStreet, one of the nation’s leading creative writing center.



The recent release of the Pew Research Center publicationThe Rise of Intermarriage provides a number of insights on the status of race relations in America. The report analyzes the demographics and economics of those who “marry in” and “marry out” of their race. The reports notes an increase in the number of interracial marriages and an increase in support for such marriages.

Gender patterns were also noted in the report and there was great variance in this data. One particular statistic stood out for me. About 24 percent of all black male newlyweds in 2010 married outside of their race as compared to 9 percent of black females.

Well into my adult years, despite the fact that I preached diversity, I held the belief that black men should marry black women and conversely, black women should marry black men. I never considered a white man as a potential mate simply because of race. Maybe it was because I feared that others would interpret my choice of a white partner as a statement about my weak or non-existent affiliation with blacks. I was actually listening to the voice of my own insecure black identity and the collective insecurity that as blacks we embraced from living in a racist society. Perhaps that is why there are always more black men marrying outside of their race than black women… but that is a topic for another post.

A white male friend who challenged my belief on this topic caused me to pause and rethink this position. I reasoned that after a day of battling being “the only one” or “one of a few” all day I might not want to connect with my partner simply because he was white. He pointed out that it wouldn’t be any different from the times when I wouldn’t want to connect with my black partner simply because he was male or because of a personality characteristic.

Another white male friend also enlightened my racially inconsistent thinking. He noted that by ruling out white males simply because of race was as offensive as any other racially exclusive action. I could rule him out because of personality or other reasons, but to do so because of race was absurd.

Ultimately, when doing research on cross-racial friendships, I not only changed my position on interracial marriages, but became a advocate for those who crossed racial lines in marriage. We have much to learn from them. At the risk of oversimplifying the issue, I believe that interracial couples support us all in moving toward a shared American experience.

In my diversity-training sessions, we often progress toward an animated discussion about what the American experience is. All of our ancestors, except for those of Native American Indians, arrived in this country by boat — the difference is in the kind of boat. Some were passenger ships, and some were slave ships. The American Dream, that anyone may be able to create a “rags to riches” success, has historically been a nightmare for some racial groups. Similarly, the “bootstrap theory” — that anyone can succeed through diligence and hard work (“pulling oneself up by one’s bootstraps”) — only applies to those who have boots and, more particularly, boots with straps. From this perspective, the historical background of our racial heritage frames our relationship to America, and thus dictates the kind of American experience one might have.

What I witness in interracial couples is not only the ability to disencumber themselves of society’s racial baggage but also evidence of the inherent God-given right that each of us has to fulfill our human potential by loving. It is how we love, not our historical relationship with America, that dictates our ability to grasp the richness of the American experience. Yes, we are really free to love whom we please in America. That is one of the true beauties of being an American.


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Interracial Marriage for all Americans Pew Report

Interracial Marriage for all Americans Pew Report

The idea of interracial marriage for all Americans is catching on.

Marriage across racial and ethnic lines continues to be on the rise in the United States. The share of new marriages between spouses of a different race or ethnicity from each other increased to 15.1% in 2010, and the share of all current marriages that are either interracial or interethnic has reached an all-time high of 8.4%.

The upward trend of intermarriage is many decades old. In 1980, fewer than 7% of new marriages were intermarriages, less than half the share now. Among all marriages, the share of intermarriages in 1980 was about 3%.

Findings from a number of recent Pew research surveys show that just as intermarriage has become more common, public attitudes have become more accepting…

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Will Interracial Marriage End Racism in America?

Interracial marriage

Will interracial marriage end racism in America?

Some people say no, that the deeper causes of racism are not addressed by such unions, and that only a willingness on the part of an historically racist Caucasian majority to examine its own history with ruthless honesty will put an end to both  and discrimination.

Racism runs deep

Others believe that deep-seated racism can be cured only by love; the kind of love that leads to marriage and children. According to this school of thought, this is the only way in which this centuries-long history of discrimination and exclusion can be corrected. There are, however common objections to this viewpoint.

the longevity of White racism and its hydra-headed complexity.

One such objection emphasizes both the longevity of White racism and its hydra-headed complexity. According to this outlook, interracial unions – even if they are confirmed by a marriage license and produce offspring – cannot undo the suffering that comes with centuries of slavery, race hatred and government-sanctioned discrimination. As powerful as erotic and Agape love are, they may not be powerful enough to do away with the critical mass of oppression that has come about during four hundred years of calculated contempt and the most heinous forms of oppression. What is needed, to the contrary, to achieve this is a Herculean effort…and all-out effort on the part of White Americans to redeem their racist past by owning up to it; an undertaking that requires an all out commitment on a national scale to drill deep into every nook and cranny of American history in a search for the “who, what, where, when  – and perhaps most importantly – “why” of their (at best) less than admirable record of ill treatment of their African-American brethren. The rationale behind this approach is that only this kind of all-embracing commitment to the historical facts, starting with the advent of slavery in 17th century Virginia and including such present day forms of this hardiest of viruses as “water cooler prejudice” and the more subtle flavors of middle class and genteel discrimination, would or could result in the change of heart that will bring about America’s transformation from a racist society to a truly egalitarian one.

Is interracial marriage a form of medicine for the treatment of racism?

In short, interracial love/marriage in America today may have a secondary role as a palliative for American racism both past and present, and may be the most effective means of ending racism in future. As to its ability to do so without being reinforced by the most earnest society-wide campaign of self-change on the part of America’s non-Black majority, only time will tell if this is indeed possible.

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Lines of Tribe – A Documentary About Interracial Marriage

Lines of Tribe


Lines of Tribe –  A Documentary About Interracial Marriage

Award winning author, publisher, producer and film maker, Ted Unarce – the producer of the award winning documentary Modern Day Slaves – has done it again with a documentary film about interracial marriage. Continue reading

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Interracial Marriage Increasing by Leaps and Bounds in America

From the Pew Report

The Rise of Intermarriage

Rates, Characteristics Vary by Race and Gender

February 16, 2012

Interracial marriage is a fact of life in the United States today. 
Whereas only about 1 in 33 Americans were married interracially in 1980,
1 in 12 are in an interracial marriage union today.

While the overall intermarriage rate has increased by 400% in little more
than a generation in the U.S., that rate is growing exponentially today.

 Some interesting aspects of this phenomenon are covered
in the following report; including “out-marrying” rates for both
African Americans and Asian Americans that show sharp differences
along gender lines.

The share of new marriages between spouses of a different race or ethnicity increased to 15.1 % in 2010, and the share of all current marriages that are either interracial or interethnic has reached an all-time high of 8.4%.

In 1980, just 3% of all marriages and less than 7% of all new marriages were across racial or ethnic lines. Both of those shares have more than doubled in the past three decades.

While newlyweds who “married out” between 2008 and 2010 are very similar to those who “married in,” judging by characteristics such as education, income and age, there are sharper differences among them based on the race, ethnicity and gender partnerships of the couples.

Just as intermarriage has become more common, public attitudes have become more accepting. More than four-in-ten (43%) Americans say that more people of different races marrying each other has been a change for the better in our society, while only about one-in-ten think it is a change for the worse.


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Author Eve Sharon Moore’s “Black Women: Interracial and Intercultural Marriage Book 1-First and Foremost

Race/gender relations, especially re black and white Americans, have been a constant theme, and (until recently) a very grim chapter of American history…especially on the part of white Americans. Continue reading

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