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Following is part 2 of an interview with Karyn Langhorne Folan, author of “Don’t Bring Home a White Boy”
interview with Karyn Langhorne Folan, author of “Don’t Bring Home a White Boy”
by Jenee Darden
Journalist and Blogger at CocoaFly.com
You wrote, “Although black men married to white women certainly face their problems with acceptance in our race-conscious society, black women and their white spouses seem to face even greater disapproval.” I know some black male relatives and friends who would strongly disagree with you. Sometimes brothas get dirty looks from black women and other races.
Some of the black women that I interviewed have had some really tough times with family reaction, stranger reaction. People seem to feel more comfortable saying stuff directly to black women than they do to black men. I think it’s harder always for the woman in an interracial relationship. I think our society does tends to be much more forgiving and more accepting of men doing whatever because it’s a patriarchal society still. When a man grows up, picks his mate and moves on, well he’s “ a man.” But women are…always protected, somewhat, by their family’s relationship. So…when they make a choice of a partner outside of the race in particular, there’s that sort of “Well, does she really know what she’s doing?” Or “That could be a bad choice for her.”
Do you feel there’s more disdain in the black community toward women dating interracially, than men?
I don’t know if there’s necessarily more disdain. You’re right, there are a lot of black women who are really mad at black men who marry outside of the race. But some of those are the same women who are not in relationships right now. I think when women are in relationships and are happy they don’t care as much about what black men are doing or what anybody else is doing. So it just points to many for the need for us to all be looking more at our own state and our own relationship, who we’re cutting out and why.
There is such a high interest in this topic. You were even interviewed on Russia Today. There’s international interest in this issue?
read more at http://www.cocoafly.com/2010/04/part-2-of-karyn-langhorne-folan.html
Karyn Langhorne Folan
…Interviewed by Jenee Darden
Journalist and Blogger at CocoaFly.com
Published in the Huffington Post on 04/08/10
Recently I met a successful, Harvard Law educated black woman in her mid-40s. Now fill in the blank. She’s also ___ and ___. Did you guess single and lonely? Unfortunately, you may think that’s the answer judging by all of the news coverage on black women’s love lives. But author Karyn Langhorne Folan is happy and married. Her husband is white. In what some women feel is a black-male shortage (black women outnumber black men by 1.8 million), Folan encourages other black women to explore a new flavor of love in her book Don’t Bring Home a White Boy: And Other Notions that Keep Black Women from Dating Out.
“Don’t bring home a white boy” is a warning some black women hear once they reach a dating age (I was warned “don’t bring home a baby” when I started dating). It’s also an idea many black women are strongly sticking to. But black men, who were told growing up to “stay away from white girls,” are down with the swirl in higher numbers. U.S. Census data from 2006 reveals 3.7 percent of married black women compared to 8.4 percent of married black men have non-black spouses.
Read more at http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jenee-darden/writer-tells-black-women_b_529552.html
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